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Growing apart. How do i bring him back?
Hi pepo, I have been dating this guy 4 more than 2 yrs now. Recently he got a new job. At first everything was ok but after sometime he would go to work on sato and sundays tho' it is not a must. He is at work late every evening and thus we have not had time together for weeks now. We both stay n work in Nai tho' not together. I feel like we are growing apart too fast. I love him n would like to keep him. What should i do?
I did tell him abt it but he said he con't do away with his work n he simply has no time. I haven't seen him for 3 wks now.
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2008-07-08 | nkiro said:
Relax
Hey gal....relax! u have said u trust him...his work is very important to him, esp men as the provider. i know u feel like ur needs arent being met, but to show love for ur guy just give him space....he will come round. ul be showing him how much u love him by supporting him as he works. however for it to go unmentioned, ul be a classic doormat. so just tell him lovingly on phone how much u miss him and how much u wish u guys were together.....but that you do understand that he has to work. after that just let him make the next move....he shall come round coz ul have shown him that while u do undertsand you also do miss him. if u nag him, he will just go coz it shows selfishness on ur end not caring if he works right or not. anatha thing...when ur in that situation chics tend to loose control....keep emotional outbursts to a minimum....be sweet all the time and he shall rimemba what he is missing. if u become emotional all the more reason for him to "work harder." now before u do all these, i'd advise u to investigate deeper if he really is working or not. he could be having an affair. however men by their nature aren't able to multi task thats why when things are ruff they back off. si kwa ubaya its just their nature. while us chics would like to be cuddled etc etc. the easiest way to get a man closer, is to give him space....men's primary need is freedom. never ever 4get that. chics primary need is companionship. so by fulfiling his primary need ( freedom) u shall make him want you more. anyways follo my advice and u won't go wrong!
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2008-06-04 | Peris said:
My dear,
Please give the guy a break and let him first sort his issues at work he will get back if he real loves you i promise just be patient.
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2008-04-25 | softy said:
i was involved with such a guy and i decided tit for tat, after which i got involved with another jamaa so i broke it off with him, later to realise he was telling the truth and he loved me too much and the worse thing is i had already fallen in love with this new jamaa. so make a right decision
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2008-04-10 | Pearo said:
Ngrrrrinng!!!
Pick up gal ...he is busy ..we all know what that means ...I NEED MY SPACE. Does he realise he is bleeding you long relation? Time for a one on one with positive mind and be rational ..2 yrs its long for dating ....boredom creeps in everybody wants fireworks i n their realtion something new ...and this new found habit of work ..is not healthy he needs to know that ..everybody needs a break from a hard day ...what more than soothing ,caring hands of youre loved one.Something is fishy with him you have to discuss with him politely,amicably tell him about youre fears,feelings and you would like to go back 2yrs when it was him and you ....it was mzurii ..hey try a candle lit dinner and a nice wine with a good year... look sexy ...but men are funny he will start asking whats the occasion..but be calm and say its.... US
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2008-04-09 | QUESTION OWNER said:
Guys, isn't there a way of bringing him back? I do trust him
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2008-04-09 | Alecky said:
dig deeper
I think u should take time and investigate whether this man really goes to work on weekends.He might be playing u.He might b having a new relationship which makes him not to have time 4 u.investigate first b4 u take any action.
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2008-04-08 | flames said:
TAKE TIME & PUT GOD FIRST
MY DEAR PAL JUST TAKE YOUR TIME & TRUST GOD FOR A MIRACLE IN YOUR RELATIONSHIP FOR THE BIBLE SAYS THAT WAT GOD HAS JOINED TOGETHER LET NO MAN WITHSTAND IT.SO IF IT'S GOD'S PLAN FOR YOU TO BE TOGETHER NOTHING WILL SEPARATE U NOT EVEN THE WORK HE IS DOING
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2008-04-06 | Mkenya Halisi said:
Talk
Talk to him on phone etc. Are you sure it is just work that id keeping him away from you even on Sunday? Dig deeper.
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2008-04-04 | nico said:
communication
Talk to him the way you feeling n i know he will arrange sometime for you.
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2008-04-04 | Jaymu said:
Be patient
please be patient i don't c anything to bother u.