Dear,maybe dependent but not dumb.And yes i can say u suffer from low self-esteem,which can be improved.Just like the other guyz have said,u need to start finding urself,hobbies and activities.Get to know pple,start with the gal next door or the guy next door.Get some friends to spend some of ur free time with you.That will improve ue self-esteem..the way u relate with others...that will give you confidence.Just have faith in urself and u'll see a change in u.Talk to urself,it sounds wierd but trust me,it works.Say to urself over and over again.." i know i can be better than this,am not going to wait for my boo to plan my time for,am going to take charge of my own life".It works on me whenever i tend to drift back to inferiority..which am struggling with.
All the best gal,u going to get over it.

Chichi & Nkiro,u have suggested of Salsa,where can one get some classes besides K1 and Heartz? Any suggestions?

Dear,thats a tough situation you are in en if you don't take care be rest assured your guy is bouncing.Get yourself involved in activities,I'd recommend the church coz thats where the probability of you having so many friends is high,on the other hand am sure everyone has a talent,its time for you to start naturing your talent,join dance groups (a good example is a salsa class)you will also get to know so many people and this will prevent you from always nagging your boyfriend.All the best

You need a distraction, a good distraction, it need not be a friend, try to discover your talents and hobbies that will put your mind to rest and tame your passions a little bit. You can choose to learn another language, take cookery classes, read books or whatever your hobby is and develop it

Also, you should humbly start to understand yourself and learn to control any crazy thing that may put your boyfriend off. Guys love a woman who HAS A LIFE. Yeah, get some other distraction and you will be fine. But remember to give him the love and things will improve.

All the best sweetheart

you need to get control over yourself........otherwise you will get obsessed with him and this will lead to alot of unnecessary insecuriety and eventually the end of your relationship as you can see he is already avoiding you. Try and be responsible as in plan for your weekends am sure you can get something to occupy you.

dear please get a grip before u loose ur guy! i was there once and lemme tell u its a huge turn off. i wish i culd meet u one on one and stress the importance of inter-dependence in a relationship. a relationship is about two wholes coming together and not one half merging with a whole! seems to me that uv turned ur guy into ur whoole life and seems to me that ur making him responsible for ur happiness. its the hugest turn off for a guy!! secondly a guys major need after sex, is space! guys are wired differently from us chics. i know it seems like the hardest thing to do.......but trust me ul thank me for this. give him space, let him have time to himself and when u hook up he will love u even more! i suggest u get a click of gals to spend time with when boo is away. alternatively, get a hobby that is self involving......join a reading club, the gym, some sport etc etc. ur guy will love the new you......and hey! with time he might even introduce you to his circle of pals. but get ur own life please.....u have a problem thats called the co-dependency problem. its a very unhealthy state of mind where u lean onto someone like a pest and gradually drain the other person. gal i was there also. i was in ur exact same position......duh! am not with this guy but i carried a lot of lessons from it. i came to learn that just as we gals love to be held and cuddled.......so do men love their space. if u dont give space ur not meeting ur guys needs. respect him, admire him, accept him and give him space to himself.........wish you the best of luck! just curious is this ur first love? sounds like it.....am much older and experienced and please take it from me....get ur own life. why dont u take weekend classes, even if its something as silly as salsa class or sumthing? this will give u sumthing to do when he is away and will develop u as a person. good luck gal i really want you to pull thru.