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Am married to a man who has turn to be a different person i knew whilst we were dating, he gave me a mobile b4 we get married in 2005 and i have been using this phone until i have a phone feb 2008 fm my female cousin who came for holiday, then i gave my old phone to my elder sister's son, but it seems my hubby is not happy of me giving it to the boy, sometime last week he called me whilst am in my office that his phone develop problem and that i should arrange my sister's son to borrow him the phone, he has repair his, but still now has not return the phone back to the boy, instead yesterday the boy ask him to borrow the phone as he was making a phone call using his own sim, and then the boy remove the memory of the phone, can you imagine my hubby this morning left the house in the morning not even taking bath, just to collect the phone fm the boy in the school, its seems my hubby is not the least happy whenever i give anything i have to my family/friend, besides am not jealous he gives things to his family/friends without me not saying anything but when it comes to me and my family he becames very jealous, the last time i ask him as yr phone is ok now, when r you going to return the phone to the boy, he just reply when he is ready. my problem is that what next should i do, becos it really pain me alot, after all we were been kick-out by our landlord and my sister the boy's mum take us in her house which we are presently staying with them, can you imagine.
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2008-08-13 | Camila said:
Am sorry about this but there are people who are just like your hubby so achana tu naye na uendelee na maisha yako
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2008-07-23 | abuna said:
Make A decision
it all depends on you make a decision , am nt telling u to leave him but make a good decision that will help u in the near future .n the other thing we women lack is a stand i mean we dont stick to what we say try to do that n u will see a defference.just know that if he keeps on reminding u thz phone he has issues with u n that he doesn't know hw he will start. be sharp dear.All the best in your marriage
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2008-07-17 | softy said:
yeah your hubby was right to get mad coz how do you give a gift given to you to someone else? but on the other hand he acted like a child coz he would have told you that he was angry so that you take the phone back and buy your nephew another one
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2008-07-11 | yes said:
buy your
sometimes you wonder why people give you gifts, maybe so that in future they ll be telling they friends she/he can not do without my help.... look at that phone i gave it to her/him and anabrag nayo. alikupea for your own benefit , if he want you to recognise his gifts maybe ask him before you give it to anyone else hata kama ni your own family.
maybe he has no fuss with what you do with the fone lakini hukukoconsult when giving out. what you think is right to u is not always right to everyone inaitwa having different perception............
now cos water has poa just buy your niece another fone and this time hata kama tulienda Beijing inform/ him.

i think such are small issue that when not observe end up braking marriage................ all the best
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2008-07-01 | kabesh said:
dear
just 4get about the whole old handset issue and buy your nephew a new cheap phone, it will solve a lot , men are like that they were all backed in the same oven just 4get his old handsetto avoid story mingi
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2008-06-27 | Daybreak said:
PETTY
This is the pettiest post Ive ever set my eyes on.....
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2008-06-27 | flames said:
JUST LET HIM BE
IF HE HAS ISSUES WITH THE FONE JUST LET HIM BE COZ TO ME HE SEEMS TO BE A VERY MEAN GUY MWENYE HATA HATAKI U SHARE THINGS WITH YUA FAMILYMEMBERS SO I THINK WAT U SHULD DO JSUT LET HIM BE AND AM TELING U HIS CONSCIOUS WIL HAUNTHIM AS IN HE WILL START SAYING WHY DIDN'T I LEAVE THE BOY WITH THE FONE U SEE THINGS LIKE THOSE.

THEN MY ADVICE TO U IS THAT PRAY HARD THAT GOD MAY SAVE YUA MARRIAGE.OTHERWISE I WISH U LUCK AND DO NOT BE MOVED OR BE DISTURBED BECOS OF WAT IS HAPPENING IN YUA LIFE GOD WIL C U THRU AND HE WIL GIVE U STRENGTH
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2008-06-26 | Luke said:
His Point of View
I would like you to tackle this problem with alot of prudence. Your hubby bought you this phone, hence it was much more than just a phone. It was his gift to you, yes...he realy treasured that look on your face when you got the phone and saw his relevance in your life. How will you feel when you cook your hubby his favourite meal, and he ends up giving the neighbourhood dogs? or some street child (which is logical, the street kid is hungry). He is being unreasonable but his reasoning behind his actions are reasonable (read that sentence again).
He expected you to at least consult him before giving your nephew the phone. He is hurt and thinks that you did not even treasure his gft. Arrest the matter at hand, it is not as shallow as it looks. Tell him that you really loved the phone and you are forever grateful for it.
He should also learn to be pragmatic and let you give the phone to your nephew.
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2008-06-26 | BILL said:
YOU NEED TO TALK
Pole Sana mummy, please make it known to your hubby that he has changed and that he needs to come round and find himself. By the story you give about that status of your family,your husbands behavior is most likely arising from the fact that he has to face the stark reality that he isn't meeting his obligations. He could be totally frustrated and confused and this could have further tampered with his sense of judgment. these problems are real and in your case it runs too deep. please seek advise from a family counselor because it could be a problem so mighty for to handle it alone. BILL.