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What would yu do if your wife keeps threating to comit suicide all the time even over petty issues?
Mine is a very emotional person that at times I dont understand her. You cant correct her when she's wrong. Yu cant argue with her, if she's on the wrong and yu kep quiet to avoid causing probs, she gets offended that yur ignoring her. I've tried to let her have her ways as much as possble but its affecting me.
Its made life so difficult for me cos I cant speak my mind. If I do she drags in so many issues for no reason. She says since she cant get married to smeone else again, she wud rather take her life than live in missery. I used to think she's just trying me but when one day she refused to board our car and opted to trek from westlands to Umoja hoping that a car wud knock her dead on the road, I started taking it seriosuly.
How can a man live in a hse where he cant control things? I feel so worthless though I m the main provider. I feel like letting her just do it so I start all over again instead of living forever like this. Pls advise |
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| 2008-10-05 | boston857 said: |
Trigger buttons... |
Dude, she has your number and is using the threat of suicide as a manipulative technique to get her way because guess what - IT WORKS FOR HER!
This is a sign of a highly narcistic personality and I strongly advise that she go into therapy / counseling. |
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| 2008-08-13 | Camila said: |
Love your wife please |
Your story is touching but, please please please, show your wife that you love her everyday and appreciate what she does and i believe she will change - i have a feeling that you do not have enuf time for your family and especially your wife so please try and make her happy - all the best |
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| 2008-06-27 | flames said: |
PRAY |
U KNOW WAT A GUD MARRAIGE COMES FRROM GOD WAT I THINK U SHOULD DO MY FRIEND IS FOR YOU TO PRAY TO GOD THAT HER WAY OF THINKING MAY CHANGE COZ THIS MIGHT AFFECT HER IN FUTURE AS IN IT IS A SEED WHICH SHE IS PLANTING A SEED OF DEATH AND VERY SOON SHE WILL COME TO ACCOMPLISH IT |
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| 2008-06-26 | Luke said: |
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T too had a melodramatic chick once, they rarely commit suicide. It is just a desperate stance to have things your way. I advice you not to budge and point it out to her that it is wrong to do that. People use that suicide line when desperate and fear theyt will lose someone, assure her that you love her and it is human to have differences. Do not become a slave of her suicide threats. Take charge of your marriage and make right decisions, despite her suicide threats.
All the best mate |
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| 2008-06-26 | Argie said: |
Professional Help |
Bill is right,try and find a psychiatrist to help her coz its doesn't sound funny,its serious.If u know her close friends,contact them to find out what's eating her.If u can't go thru her personaly,why don't u ask her bestfriend to help.i believe she has a woman confidant.If that doesn't work,consider a professional psychiatrist.
And above all,Pray for her and u can ask someone to pray with you for her.
Wish u God's blessings in this. |
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| 2008-06-26 | Lisa said: |
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She needs help and she really needs it fast. She has learnt to depend on you so much that she is terrified of loosing you. She feels frustrated because she does not get the attention she wants from you. When you keep quiet abt any issue, it kills her coz she thinks you are not interested in anything she does. on the other hand when you try to correct her she feels bad coz she now starts getting scared that she is not good enough for you and the fear of loosing you returns. Its really a bad situation really and its very frustrating for both of you.
Now, its major cause is lack of attention and appreciation. The other major cause is that she is not involved in any other social activities. She only plans on spending her time either alone or with you. So what you need to do is start appreciating the small things she does like cooking a nice meal or even dressing beautifully. Second, be telling her a lot about your day and listen to her stories as well. When she complains abt something bad u have done, don't defend yourself or try to accuse her as well. Just apologise for hurting her and for what you did, remember to add that u didn't mean it the way she took it coz u hate to see her hurt. Third and most important, though i have no idea how u r going to pull this one through, she needs to get some other activities occupying her time, let her stay with friends or get involved in church activities or something for heaven's sake. Otherwise she will spend every minute that u r not with her wondering what u might be doing and if u r with another lady, and all the time u r with her accusing you of hiding something and getting mad abt nothing.
Now you need to really love her to help her thru it. And you need a lot of patience. |
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| 2008-06-26 | chichi said: |
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Dear,am so sorry but I think she might be having some emotional issues which she doesn't want to tell you.It might be something that she thinks will ruin your relationship,try en get hold of he parents,talk to them tell them to talk to there daughter.If she doesnt have parents try en talk to any of her close relatives,try ask them if the girl might be having issues that you don't know,am sure she has a best or very close friend talk to them find out the roots of her problem.This lady might have past issues en she thinks that the best thing to do is to keep threatening you,if either of the above doesn't work,then i'd advise you to bounce en let her commit the suicide if she really means it.Just tell her your tired en you think you should separate for the good of the both of you. |
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| 2008-06-26 | BILL said: |
please dont let her do. it help her |
Please my brother, don't let her do it no matter how much she tried to push you. your wife suffers from a problem called attention deficiency. the same problem that was found with Justin Gatlin, the Athens Olympics 100 meters world record holder. he used to behave exactly like that. he got psychological help from therapists and he is still on drugs. now i would advise you to do several things that could help. one, please seek to calm yourself down and find peace within yourself because there is a solution to this problem. secondly, please make it known to your wife that you actually care for and about her deeply and that you truly love her and want to lice peacefully with her. you can do this by letting her tell you what makes her feel deprived or stressed and what she would like to see you doing and how. Thirdly, seek medical attention and counseling for both of you because the problem has affected both of you guys. You may not believe it but counseling helps a great deal. Instead of feeling frustrated and beaten, take courage and consistently provide leadership. Encourage your wife and comfort her when she is down. Give her hope that thing are going to be better and that it takes only the two of you to remain happy by doing things in a certain way. Let her understand that suicide will never solve anything by providing an alternative state of mind with your ideas and wearing a positive attitude yourself. Don't ignore her frustrations, seek to address them as a caring husband. She is getting into a bad situation that is growing worse every minute. she needs urgent help. just be positive and help her. don't be dismayed by the challenge that come with that responsibility.
Lastly my brother, its better to note that the urge to commit suicide is a very bad spirit that can only be conquered by fervent prayer and daily working to beat the desire.
Let nothing take your strength away. Stay the course and be consistently positive and your family will regain the joy that you had at first. God Bless You and All the days of your life. BILL. |
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