The worst things happen to us at the least expected time.
There is a reason why this happened. Maybe you will come to discover it, maybe not. Take heart. You will not cry forever. Thank God for your son. Encourage him. Let him spend as much time with your male relatives as possible, to help ease the lack of a father figure. Make sure you find a support network. Find a person you can share with, pray with, spend time with when you are feeling like you can't go on. Remember, this is very common, my friends have all gone through it. I myself.
Who knows? Be thankful that his departure has opened the door for that caring man! Remember at the end of the day, you have God. The only one who will never ever leave.

thank everbody for advice expecially angie and felixo I followed angie and felixos advice and decided to give this one last call just to know whats on his bind,and guess what its like he was watting for that .He explained about how he missed us me and the boy begged for my forgiveness and soo on.when i questioned about the other chick he was quick to say that was a passing wind and that i should worry about her.I havent given a feed back so far it even hurts soo much now that he even admitted about the other chick.Whay should i do ? remeber i still have storng feeling for him.For Flames 8yrs is along time to forget someone but i do appreciate your contribution.

Thanks DK for being there Your contributions gave me strentg just knowing someone cares somwhere.

Am sorry for what has befallen you girl. I know its hard for you coz of the child. But you really need to start your life again. If you show him that you or your son can't survive without him, he will despise you. But if you pretend to be strong enough to handle both your son and your heart, he will regret ever leaving you. So now what you have to do is be strong, if you can't fake or act strong. Don't bother asking him to talk to his son, if he really cares for his son he should call. After all he should be with you because he loves you, not because you have his child.
I know how hard its going to be, but try to live it one day at a time.

By the way, was he staying at your house? Because he sounds to me like a joker, why is he moving in with the chicks he dates? it should be the other way round

DONT FOLLOW WAT ARGIE & FELIXO R TELLING U COZ IF U NAG AND U GIVE THE SON THE PHONE TO SPEAK WITH HIM HE WILL SEE AS IF U R TOO DESPERATE & U KNOW WAT 'BLOOD IS THICKER THAN WATER" HE WILL SOON REMEMBER HIS SON AND HE WILL COME BACK SO TAKE YUA TIME AND DONT ACT TOO DESPERATE

just think about ua son first. its true that that guy neva loved u 4 real as in how could he live u 4 another woman.... kwanza after all those years ..... does he really care about u n ua son... if he was he couldnt have left both of u.. gal just move on leave ua life.. pray God to help u heal... to let u overcome all the tribulations of life ... THINK about UA SON.

Gal,thats a long time of knowing each other.Its had to throw that away.Just like Felizo said,fight for him,do not nag him coz if u do,he'll pull away completely.I feel for the kid,i know if thre was no kid,it would've been easier for u.He should understand the damage he's causing his son,make him realise that.Let the kid talk to him through the phone,probably and see the reaction.The kid might have an effect on him.
I know he'll be back to you later when the other chick doesn't meet his needs and start fighting.He'll remember you.What goes around comes around.Take this time to review ur relationship and pin-point when things started changing and what triggered the change,With that,u can be able to make it work again when u get back together.
Above all,pray for him to change.

8yrs is such a long time to throw away like that. I know marriage isnt easy and may be there were issues that led to cheating and walking away, but trust me it will soon start with the other lady and he'l feel it was better off with you.

Besides yu need to woo him back esp for the kid. I've felt the pain imagining my son suffering that much.He shud feel guilty if he loves the boy.

So gal go for him, he's yours. And review your life together with a view to avoiding things that caused the break up. Good luck

MY DEAR LET NOT THIW WORRY U JUST BE BARVE ENOUGH & TAKE CARE OF YOUR SON AS TIME GOES BY HE WILL SOON FORGET HIS DADDY.AND EVEN IF U STIL LUV THE MAN JUST B PATIENT & TAKE YUA TIME U WILL ALSO LEARN TO FORGET HIM