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Why so much dream on her
Guys Im bothered over somthing. There is this chick we parted ways 10yrs ago (was my 1st love of 5yrs). I'm now married for 7yrs and her 8yrs. we live far a part,her in western and me in NBI so we dont meet nor communicate. I never think of her at all.

The issue is she still crowds my dreams to date. I dream of almost everynight that we are having those nice moments. Why would I still dream of her 10yrs later? Its not that i still long for her, I really love my wife and cant cheat on her. But I just wonder why the dreams. Anybody who has an idea?
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2008-10-15 | jamo said:
she was your first and most likely hit the right buttons that your wife hasent yet. its normal and you dont have to worry about it. it would help to see here and talk about it with her. she will definately push you away and you'll get to view her differently
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2008-10-13 | tong said:
By and large this girl imparted in you very special throughts and these stained your mind...There is something you really liked about the girl and I guess sometimes when you are bored with your wife you fantisize that it could be better with the other.....

Dont worry about your dreams they are normal , have good laughs with your wife and day dream with her, these good feelings may replace those old one by the ex, in future you will dream of your current
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2008-10-08 | apprentice said:
try closure!
maybe you left each other hanging...like the way you can close a file yet the case was never solved.
maybe she still blames you for something you did or you never forgave her for somthing she did.try finding out and see whether you'll have peace in your sleep.
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2008-10-06 | Franklin said:
Upendo ule ule!
Hey bro, that was your first love and may be you just wish or wanna think how it would be if we never parted.??... Now , dreams are a sum up of what you have busy with during the day...the thought you yourself generate and fantasy about...the solution is simple ...just replace her in your dreams with your current wife and walaaa... you now are on the right track! By the way you start cheating on you wife when you start thinking or fantasizing with another woman especially your Ex. coz it will just be a matter of time before the unexpected happens. One more think, what you think about most of the time..you attract it into your life...becareful sawa?
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2008-07-18 | Camila said:
Talk to your church leader please - pastor/priest and pray alot
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2008-07-07 | Luke said:
It is just a dream, there are saints who dream of kissing their friend's mother and such. Do not antagonise or analyse it too much. Live normally and ignore the dreams, the more you think about them\, the more frequent they will become, it is no big deal...just live your life oblivious of your dreams. Best of luck
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2008-07-04 | loks said:
it seems your subconcious has not got completely over her yet
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2008-07-03 | flames said:
NOTHING BUT PRAYERS
MY DEAR FRIEND THERE IS NOTHING BUT PRAYERS THAT CAN HELP U SOLVE THIS PROBLEM.JSUT GO DOWN TO YOUR KNEES AND PRAY TO THE ALMIGHTY TO HELP U COZ IT SEEMS MAYBE THE TIME U WERE HAVING A RELATIONSHIP U MADE A COVENANT & THAT IS WAT IS MAKING U DREAM OF HER EVERYDAY
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2008-07-03 | limosine said:
Yes do alot of prayers my dear friend only that wil help.
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2008-07-03 | prit said:
pray
yaiks!! pray abt it