It is precisely for wanting to be THE AFRICAN MALE that I am now in this dilemma.

Stop being melodramatic. So u are gonna divorce your wife just because her ol' man came over without prior notice. It is a fact of marriage, when you marry Atieno, you will be marrying the Atienos. Instead, deal with is while looking from her point of view, be close to her parents, warm to them, talk it out candidly with no emotional flare ups. Haha, divorce cos of in-laws, come on. What if in the future you argue over finances, then about kids? You cannot run away from problems, tackle them like an African Man...firmly.
For sure, divorce is not the only way out. Keep your head cool

I do understand your concern.But is this reason enough to divorce ur wife?there must be something your not telling us.Talk to like an aunt to your wife so she can kindly insist on your inlaws to stop medling around.

TRY AND SIT DOWN WITH HER AND TRY TO GIVE HER TIME TO CHANGE U KNOW WAT THE ONLY THING TO DO IS FOR U TO TALK TO HER CONCERNING THIS ISSUE BEFORE IT GETS OUT OF HAND