MY BROTHER AM SO SORRY ABOUT YOUR WIFE'S STATUS SUPPORT HER NOW MORE THAN EVER COZ SHE NEEDS YOUR HELP & SUPPORT NOW.THEN U KNOW WAT JEHOVA IS A FAITHFUL GOD JUST TRUST HIM THAT YPOUR CHILD MAY NOT B HIV +.I WISH U THE BEST & I PRAY THAT GOD MAY GRANT U, YOUR MIRACLE

Professional counseling will be of great help to both you and your family. the water has poured and now its not the time to cry over that. you need to face the new life you have discovered with courage and learn to be enthusiastic about life. now if i was a counselor would ably help you deal with this but i am not. may be just a little. much will come from your counselor. Acceptance is the beginning of winning all self facing adversities in life. you need to accept that you have made this mistake.take several more tests because you have been seeing your wife until you discovered that she is positive. do several tests. stress will be part of your life. don't mourn over it. you will grieve. that is good but don't let it ruin your life. guilt is a very strong feeling and it is very destructive. its very very destructive if its let to become the center of affairs. you need to remain positive about your family's predicament. then again you need to organize from work so that you live together with your wife. visit your d0octor and learn how you will begin the new life and how you will manage the condition. this is very important. never listen to what other people have to say. it will only break you. just do what your doctor will tell you. this is not the end of life. its the beginning of a new life and you need to be more courageous, positive, resilient and focused than before. above all seek the Lord and lead your family there. You will live your lives better and wholesomely like you cant imagine now. all the best my friend. BILL.

The chickens have come home to roost. It could have been and probably was that while you were enjoying other women thinking yours was safe at home, she was out cheating on you. Or she was chaste and through some fluke of nature you infected her without infecting yourself. But aal that is now water under the bridge. It makes no difference who did what as it wont change your wife back to negative or undo the damage. You have to appreciate that your questions and confusion are part of the 'why me' stage of a newly diagnosed patient and her family. Eventualy you will move on to the other stages hopefully towards fully accepting your life as it is now.
If your daughter turns out to be positive then you do everything you can to help her. You be there for both your wife and child they need you now more than ever. It's time to talk to a real councellor experienced especially at situations like yours.
So how do you do this? One day at a time... and cherish each like never before.