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advice on this gal
I have been seeing this gal for slightly over two years. I really love her much and have told her the same, we have shared very intimate moments and done every other thing that people in love can do, including spending nights together, but sex. we call each other very often even at times more than thrice in a day. have neva asked her whether she loves me but from her behavior and her actions, i feel she loves me. she loves no other person. The problem is that on number of occasions she has told me that she feels she can never love me as much as i love her but has never affirmed her love to me. should i ask her whether she loves me or not or should i continue with my make believe that she loves me, based on what we have been doing together? is it bad to have been together this long without shagaring?
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2008-09-09 | Pearo said:
Dpmie has spoken like a lady l and how they feel in such kind of a situation I think you better listen to her advice its practical ..........women are very smart when it comes to handling love matters.
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2008-08-22 | BILL said:
get creative
There are so many ways to know whether she loves you or she is able to love you. She is right when she tells you that she cannot love you as much as she loves you. this should tell you that she is actually with you because of convenience and as soon as you cease to offer that convenience you will have no use. believe me. try to tell her that you are fed up being in a relationship with someone who doest love him the way you love her and that you are too emotional just like her and want to be appreciated completely and loved alike, and that you have decided to walk out of the relationship. then make it real by staying away, don't call her, or answer her smses. this will tell you whether she may fight to maintain the relationship but remember what you have is to her convenience and not yours. this relationships are so many these days and you are not alone. My counsel here seems too blunt but it works like you never imagined. BILL.
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2008-08-20 | kazimoto said:
Cool it down and take it easy with her. Don't wear your heart so much on your sleeve. Maybe she feels you're rushing her to fall in love with her. Your best strategy would be to put the love and romance aspect of your relationship on the back burner for a while. Open up your true self to her let her see the qualities that make you special. After a while you will find she feels just the same way you do.
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2008-08-20 | Domie said:
You will loose it.
"She feels she can neva love u as much as you love her!" That is soo dangerous.
My take. This woman loves u, but yr love is too much that it somehow sufocates her. Its like she gets something that she is afraid that she may not be able to repay back.
You making it with her, is 50- 50.
I feel that u have given yr power, yrself away. Umechiachilia usomwe, upimwe n yr fate decided. Sometimes it doesnt pay to be Mr. Nice, ati u sleep with this chic n u dont shag, all those times!!! This chic will be wondering whats up with this guy. Lovin a gal is not being afraid to ask for sex, its sexing her till she loves you.
So friend, either way u will loose it. U cant reclaim yr manhood now, its gone.She did(or maybe still does) loved u but u needed be affirmative n aggresive.