why do u let urself get treated that way!if the guy TRASHES u chases u out of his house n then has the audacity to lure u back only to do it again!!!!!!i mean do we have to spell it out of u Girl!leave him u find a better life somewhere else

You want to be 36 like him and still waiting????move on

If you really do love him then i think that you should wait. After all he might turn out to be the love of your life. But don't get me wrong i don't mean that you should sit around the house waiting for the day he will call no. While you wait live your life apart from him. Enjoy your singleness, your independence. Do the things that will make you happy, improve yourself and your self esteem. Then one day he may be lucky enough to call and find a real woman. What i'm saying is don't close the door on this relationship, if it's destined to happen it will. But don't depend on it to workout either, cause it just might not.

I dont know if its me or you all feel the same here ..why would someone trash you then hug you then trash you then hug you again and you still feel he cares ....Get the picture clearly Move on ..stop mark timing o n him he is doing 36 for crying out loud .....HE HAS UNRESOLVED ISSUES WITH HIMSELF GIVE HIM SPACE SO HE CAN FIGURE IT OUT.HE IS CONFUSED.....SHOULD I MARRY OR NOT SHOULD I OR NOT ...YES... NO YES... NO TIME GOES BY AND BY THEN YOU BE 36 ALSO PHEW !!!

hello gal, please move on. This man will only cause you heartache and untold social pyscological suffering. u wont regret moving on.

U KNOW WAT U SHULD DO I THINK U SHULD JUST GO ON WITH YUA LIFE.THIS GUY IS THE TYPE OF A GUY WHO JUST NEEDS LADIES FOR PLEASURE THEN HE DUMPS THEM AND FOR SURE I THINK THIS IS WAT HE HAS BEEN DOING IN THOSE 36YRS.

if this guy was serious, he would hav married u kitambo since he is even past his mariage age. If u meet a guy above 35 n still single, run for yr dear life.
What has this guy been doing. Has he been taking advantage of women by those come we stay affairs for 7 months like what u had with him? Frankly, i know a guy who did this to so many womeN, about 6. then when he was almost 50, some gal thot he was gonna get serious but wapi! He is still running same games as this dude of yrs

If this issue cannot be sorted now, what if another big issue arises once yr married? Will u resolve it ama atakushow ishia mpaka u resolve it. All relationships have lil problems and its the will to solve them, forgive n work towards a beta rltship that bring two pple more closer to each other.


My dear, smell the coffee n move on. This guy has sighted another chic wanted to put up with him 4 another 2 years. this guy will neva settle down. Move on. You are not DEFINATELY WORTH HIS TIME, OR TO BE HEART BROKEN WAITING FOR SOME ONE WHO IS NOT THERE, OR WONT LOVE YOU BACK

I think u should just move on. I don't really understand how that guy can ask u to move out even if u r having problems. I don't think he loves you plus i also suspect he has something to hide.

That guy is not serious, a serious person will not let things go out of way everytime and refuse to settle them in good time so please just ask him what he is up to then decide after you get his response otherwise i dont think u can live with somebody who tells you to move out evrytime there is a problem - its not normal

I have been in a situation almost similar to yours and this happens when one sees you as a hindrance instead of a treasure. The guy doesn't love you and he should not say he does in the first place. He is looking for excuse and you have to ask God to give you courage and move on as this man is trying to avoid you as he is with someone else. It happens and I have the experience as a man, whom my wife did the same thing to me and always men we are hurt too but just in silence we don't say it out.

My advice is just try and pick the pieces as you won't be a happy family in the future you will be having problems in the future. By the way what have happened is not just something to joke around with as your happiness matters alot too. You can't be resolving your problems by moving out from someone you love you always sit and talk the problem out and resolve it there and then. chongabuda21@gmail.com

God always provides the best solutions, we are all His and you should not be afraid to ask God for anything remember that, no man can make you happy unless God is in their heart and yours, then you will find the happiness flowing inside you. And remember one thing sex is not happiness or solution for forgiveness never try this to anyone when you have problems my dear never.