when couples are dating ithought you have to know your partner fantasies??then my dear lady you would not be in this spot..i have endulged my galfy in all her fancies i guess if i felt swinging will do for me why not.
im sure you have stuff you wonna do as well

Hi dea,
i quite feel the pressure n stress u r undergoing. pliz hav a lenghty tak with ua man in a serene enviroment wen u r in a gud mood (don get anoyd no mata wat he says)
n try ua best to understand his point of argument concerning the issue so as 2 know wether its s'thin u can cure by xciting ua sex lyf ama its his fantacy with the ather wife hence beyond ua ctl. goodluck.

yah could be, we cant ignore any possible factor leading him to this decision.but instead of making guess work ebu ask him what makes him think it would be fun??from there you can get the bearing of where you are heading.

To me thats utter nonsense.............That husnband needs prayers from all corners of Kenya.Thats wat i can tell u.

Ur husband is going through PEER PRESSURE and want to experiment since his friends say its good .This to him is turning to be a fantasy which turned to reality are destructive .

He has made his first step to voice about his fantasy and your advice will direct him.Gather his reasons and you will learn that he truly would not engage in this act .

If I were you, I would walk out of this marriage and make it public to all who matter, why I've done so. What he is trying to get you into has very serious consequences, physically, mentally, spiritually and socialy and the consequences extend beyond you too to your children too. I'm appaled at the ingnorance of those who are encouraging you to do this. Think about this.....by the time he gets the guts to even try to entice you into doing it.....IT SHOWS HE HAS LOST DIGNITY FOR YOU AND YOU HAVE BECOME ANOTHER COMMODITY HE CAN TRADE FOR HIS PLEASURES. In other words you are not safe in this marriage. A real man should be protective to his spouse and entire family and not trade them for his fantasies.
The moment you give in..even if its once, you will have to live with it as he has already given his buddies access to use and molest you and he will never believe you are not doing things behind his back. The kind of jelousy that comes along with this things is lethal and may cost ones life at some point. If not through disease then it will be through a jelous partner (any one of them).
DRUGS!!!
This where it all starts and before you realise, your experimenting and getting hooked on drugs too. There is nothing decent about swapping partners and it doesnt matter who does it and which club exists. Do not allow your self to be degenerate. I would walk out and protect my self and kids. If he has no honor for you to that extent....tell me why he can not join the increasing group of child molestors commiting incest with their own daughters we see in the papers every day, tell me why tommorow he would not come up with an idea to swap your daughters with another equally degenerate friend of his (please respond)..Remember I said A REAL MAN PROTECTS HIS FAMILY AND DOES NOT TRADE THEM FOR HIS PLEASURES!!! The choice is up to you but you'd rather not have any association with this guy any more coz you will never be able to live with the consequences. It's just not worth it. I fear for you and your childrens safety in in his hands

Yes this is happening its called swinging ..were you swoop partners, there is a club here in Nairobi that specialises in that and its members are prominent pple and well off they are checked by doctors regularly and they do everything and they have strong, happy marriages that nothing out of those escapades comes between their marriages They are all HAPPILY MARRIED..How ever this must be a decision between the two you .Its a matter of choice and knowing what are youre preferences but he has no right to force or threaten you into doing it if you not for it.My opinion on this matter is marriage is meant for TWO ONLY.

I think your husband is lusting for his friend's wife and just wanted and excuse to sleep with her. If you are bored with him, just go ahead and do what your heart feels. I feel this guy has been sleeping with many chics behind yr back. So just go ahead n get yourself somebody who will make you feel like a woman again. And take care

Domie, i don't care whether or not he is bored with the same stuff. Am also bored, women get bored even faster than men. But if i was to sleep with someone else i would never allow my husband to choose who i do it with. Kaa anataka kwenda aende- in any case if i go along with the plan he will still be sleeping with another woman right? Plus his friend is a complete turn off haki.

HIYO PEPO ISHINDWE.U KNOW WAT U SHULD DO MY DEAR JUST STICK TO YUA PRINCIPLES IT IS BETTER FOR U TO STAY DIVORCED THAN TO DO SUCH AN ACT.MAY U STAND TO YOUR PRINCIPLES PLEASE COZ HII NI UPUZI

How long have you been married? I think your man is serious with it and you should also take it seriously and think of what you can do.
Maybe he is jst bored the same stuff( n believe me men will always get bored, no matter how good it is). He is even a good man if he took the trouble to tell you that, some other guy will have gone ahead n cheated on you.
Put yrself in the position to do it. He will really appreciate. make sure yr safety and protection is given first priority. it could be something that could bring much joy to yr love life.
If you dont do it, he will go ahead and just do it - maybe with some other chic. U dont want that to happen, do you???

I don't know what else to tell you except stand by your principles.

partner swop or swinging as it is referred is very common in Kenya. in fact there is a club with its offices along Lower Kabete road en 4 membership one has to have a wife/ hasbund or a regular boy/galfriend. they meet regularly to do their thing there.
Swinging has been in Nrb for the last kido 8yrs, that is the far i can remember so it might have been earlier.
I condemn the practice in its entirety and in case some one's wife or husband advocates for it, then there must be some problem with him/ her.
There's nothing to talk about here, whether u give in or not, he will still go ahead and have fun with this other woman (women). Its you to decide the next step of action. If you do not mind him going out to have 'fun' then let him know your firm position against it and be ready and strong enough to stand by your beliefs regardless of the outcome.
jUST mY pOINT oF vIEW!

By way i dont think there is a man who can accept that his wife sleeps with a man he knows unless he is abnormal, i think your husband is just playing with your mind, play it cool he wants to see what your reaction will be like, so take care - all the best

Your husband is not serious, has he considered the outcome of this if you agreed to go sleep with his best friend, so that means they have discussed with the best friend and agreed, team up with the other lady and condemn them for this stupid thought, it can never work in Kenya that way - its immoral! what will the kids say anyway if they learn about this, just talk to him and tell him he is crazy

I haven't heard of such a thing in Nairobi and if l did,l would be the 1st one to be against it........hw can he.Anyway,its not good to condem him kwanza,have a lengthy talk with him and let him know how you feel,the aftermonth of what he wants to do.I tend to believe there is something influencing him or pushing him to that,try getting the bottom of the problem.Try talking to him and let us know.All the best