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Ma ex boyfriend
hii guys, 2 years ago i was in a new relationship wich went well after i had dumped ma boyfie becoz of cheatin on me with another gal. this young man was jobless until nov. 2006 when he luckily got a job as a hospital pharmacist in another district. he sudenly changed as in he wasnt calling me n wen i called, sometimes he would refuse to pick ma phone. the worst part of it is that he would visit the town where i am and leave without seeing me. one day i called n he answered me that he is married n i shud stop disturbing him. he now needs ma help coz he is claiming dat he is not in gud terms with his wife n that the lady is frustrating him.he has even dated me twice n i have refused.
my qustion is:
1. is there any need of talking to him anymore after what he did to me?
2. is it possible to get involed in his affairs with his wife because he is insisting that we should talk over it?
3. whenever i hear his voice i get weary becoz of the way he dumped me. should i accept the date n then harm him? please help.
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2008-10-14 | jamo said:
once bitten twice shy. move on. dont go for an dates with him. you sound like a realy good hearted lady. get yourself a gentleman who respects you and will always be there for you.
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2008-10-03 | nadia said:
if he cheated...
on you once, he will do it again. whats up now that he is married? He has no business complaining about his wife to you! you are not some emergency pill to fall back on because you have no life of your own! this just shows that he thinks so little of you and can play around with your mind. Remember what you went through and the rude way he put you off by announcing that he's married.
you can't switch your feelings on and off. Accept no phone calls, no dates and move on. You are no play thing. Nobody's toy. Tell him to concentrate on his wife since he found her better than you. After all, he made his bed now he must lie in it.
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2008-09-18 | flames said:
TIT FOR TAT
TIT FOR TAT IS A FAIR GAME SO JUST TREAT HIM THE SAME WAY THAT HE TREATED U COZ IF U RETURN HIM BACK TO YOUR LIFE AGAIN U WILL REGRET AND FURTHERMORE HE IS MARRIED.NOW WEN HIS WIFE IS FRUSTRATING HIM HE HAS NOW STARTED SEEING THAT U R THE RIIGHT ONE.DONT AGREE TO HIS DATES OR ON ANYTHING THAT HE OFFERS U
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2008-09-05 | Kiash said:
let him go
if u wnt wat happnd 2 happn again let him back in ua lyf
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2008-09-04 | chichi said:
I don't understand why you even talk to him,as everyone is telling you.
1.Ask him if you were there when they met.
2.Tell him thats there affair en he clearly told you he's married.
3.Move on with your life en forget about him,tell him that you were not there when he got involved with this woman en when they got married so he should look for someone else to pass on his problems.
He's family would do as they knew he was getting married.
4.Don't even talk to him,It seems he's very useless,Its a high time you start ignoring his calls.
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2008-09-03 | kazimoto said:
1. No.
2. No leave them alone.
3. No, assault is a crime, you could go to jail!

Change your number and avoid him at all costs.
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2008-09-03 | Pearo said:
Let bygones be bygones
You know what he had the guts to tell you to back off his marriage ....why are you softening for him he didnt care how you felt then ..what makes you think he cares now ........he as learned that better the devil you know than the angel you dont know ...its time for him to learn his lesson dont give in to him its o ver its over kapish ...kawache kaende kwa wifi wake wasort out issues zao peke yao.
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2008-09-03 | loks said:
Hi, I believe it is high time u completely forgot about him and erased any remaining emotions/ feeling from ua mind and heart. He is not worth any pity else he wil take u for some trash
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2008-09-03 | bird said:
Uhuum....
1. There is no reason of talking to this idiot gal. Get busy, and have pride for yourself

2. Why should you involve yourself with his marital affairs, he dumped you gal babie.

3. if he insist in meeting you, accept his invitation, set date and venue. Make it evening and dont appear. let him wait and wait, i know he will call you. Tell him you are on the way coming mpaka kitu 9.oopm. when he calls u again you can choose to switch off the phone or you simply tell him you are busy & maybe you can see him next time

Gud luck
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2008-09-03 | Camila said:
Tell him off
My dear this man told you he is married and you should not bother him, so just remind him of those words and let him know that you werent there when he was marrying so you should also be not there when resolving issues, dont harm him just forgive him and forget about him, he is not trystworthy - go on with your life and God will bless you with a faithfully man - all the best
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2008-09-02 | Lisa said:
Tell him its not possible to have his cake and eat it. You are not second-hand material period. It will hurt him more if u tell him off rather than have a date with him. I suggest u hurt him all u can coz yeah he deserves the punishment. When he calls, just say u can't meet him coz u r busy and u don't really consider him close to a pal coz he lied and that he should sort his own issues.