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DOES SHE LOVE ME?
I have been in relationship for the last two years and i have been meeting and calling this lady severally for the first year.This lady something funny with HER is that she has never asked me for anything,or even requested me to sambaza HER, I decided to keep quiet for the last 11 months and changed my number so that she could not reach me but in my heart i felt i loved her so much but my thinking told me that she was cheating on me.She has been coming home several times but everytime she visits she finds me unavailable.Last week when i called her she abused me and told me to call those people i serve,she said she was busy and did not need to waste time chatting with someones else fiancy.She hanged off the phone and she was a "mteja wa nambari uliyopiga hapatikani kwa sasa"I called her the followind day after sending her several SMS and she told me that she was sorry for what had happened the last night. she started to cry on phone and told me on how she missed me so much and she has a lot to share with me but am not around ,she told me she loved me so much and that she was sressfull and she only wanted to see me coz she has already forgotten me such that even if we meet in the streets she would not be able to recognize me.Surely is this love?and does she love me? How can you forget the one you love and you say you miss him?How can you miss someone you do not recognize?
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2008-09-19 | prit said:
UTTALILIA CHOONI
YOU ARE USED TO DATING LADIES WHO ALWAYS ASK FOR CREDIT AND KEEP ON FLASHING YOU.GIVE AN APPLAUSE N RESPECT FOR THIS LADY FOR CRYING OUT LOUD!!UTALILIA CHOONI AKIPATA MWINGINE!
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2008-09-18 | flames said:
DONT LET HER GO
THE GAL REALY LUVS U JUST TRY AND WEAR HER SHOES AND SEE IF IT WAS U, U COME LOKKING FOR HER AND U DONT FIND HER HOW WOULD U HAVE FELT FURTHERMORE FOR 11 MONTHS.HE TRULY LUVS SO DONT HURT HER AGAIN
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2008-09-17 | nkiro said:
woops! the answer i posted was meant for ana question. anyways urs is also interesting...i think she is crazy about u. i guess she was being committment phobic before u dont knw what she's been thru. but she has now come around and is ready for you now. why would u wonna do that to a mama sitta? why dont you just tell her hao u feel....she is the one who shuld be asking DOES HE LOVE ME? hey take care ur gonna loose her. women are patient but once they get tired there aint nothing in this world u can ever do to get her back. frm exp and as a chic thez a guy who pulled this on me and after practically turning psycho tryin to get his attention i got fed up. nao he is like coming back and am like so not feeling him.....and i know it hurts him but he is too late. c'mon be a man and fight for this gal if u love her. she is clearly almost neurotic wondering whats going on. am glad u posted this ? coz am in a similar situation. i knw guys usually pull this stunt to make chics fall....it works why lie. lakini u guy, dont be an ass.....be kind and fairer to this mama.
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2008-09-17 | nkiro said:
change the game
while i agree there cud be love btn u guys....it seems that ur both dancing to an old tune u are comfie with and have set up. i think either one of you is committment phobic always running away when things get closer. ask urself the real reason ur sticking out this long? is it coz ur comfie with the situation? if so ur committment phobic. otherwise its up to you to change the dance and the only way u can do this is by changing ur reactions and urself.....every change causes ripples and ur guy is also bound to change once u change. y dont u like just stop calling him, get on with ur life and see what happens? dont date for the sake of dating but just be good to urself and things will be cool. when he sees u putting urself 1st he is gonna be more attracted. ana thing....dont let someone's else's actions cause u so much hertache. let him be the one to bear responsibility for his actions by loosing you then maybe that'l be a wake up call for him
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2008-09-16 | Pearo said:
Can I be blessed with such a lady ..I would be the most happy person in Kenya.Hey ask youre self this;
1 .If she changed her number so you wont reach her?
2. if she decided to keep away from you for 11months?
3. If you find her unavailable when you go looking for her?


The feeling is mutual... do unto others what you want done unto you.
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2008-09-05 | loks said:
your lady loves u so much but you are mistreating her. in fact u r so inhumane, i pray that you get into her situation one day and feel what you are making her feel!
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2008-09-04 | chichi said:
Kazimoto en Lisa lemmie join the club of agreement.You don't change your no. coz of the chic only to see if she loves you,this lady is in love with you but you just cant get it.I mean she had all the reasons to get mad,in fact if I were in her shoe I wouldn't apologise.I mean be a man en stop your games,just tell the lady what you feel en be sincere,put yourself in her shoes imagine if she was the one playing this games how would you feel?
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2008-09-03 | Lisa said:
Am with kazimoto all the way. Hope though she finds someone else who will both trust her and appreciate her, naive as she is. You u don't deserve her.
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2008-09-03 | Domie said:
You are the Master
My guy, u r the master of mind games. U have played with this poor girls mind, by feigning unavailability till she's almost crazy.
My take- this girl is hell crazy over u. She can do anything for u now. Ushamroga mpaka karogeka, hajitambui. And thats how we should do it - being all over a chic like a cheap polyester coat is rubbish, n many men without spine do that- thinking they are treating the girl right only for the chic to dump him

So my guy, continue to be the master of mystery. Never allow her to learn u. Always be unavailable, but check that isiwe too much. Too much of this will make her come to her senses.
I think this is a good girl that you should keep by all means.( coz she aint material n the like). I like this story n will like to know how far it gets. Keep me informed, n keep the game on brotha, coz u tha master.
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2008-09-03 | kazimoto said:
Ok, let me see if i understand this. Your gal doesn't ask you for anything, money, credit etc and thru some twisted logic this makes you doubt her. So instead of talking to her about it like an adult would, you choose to play games with her by hiding from her. She gets mad at you for neglecting her, cries and tells you that she loves you but somehow you still don't believe her. Am i correct?
If i am then you are beyond help. But nonetheless i will say this to you. If a woman doesn't nag you for things like many do, and she's still after you after 11 months of being ignored, and cries and tells you that she loves and misses you, YOU DO NOT WRITE TO DEARKENYA AND COMPLAIN ABOUT IT. yOU GET ON YOUR BUMBOCLAT KNEES AND THANK GOD BECAUSE YOU HAVE FOUND WHAT EVERY MALE OUT THERE IS SEARCHING FOR, SEEN?
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2008-09-03 | Camila said:
First of all, you also made a mistake when you changed your number and she cunt reach you, i think the lady loves you and for her saying that she missed you mpaka she cant recognize you was just to stress the point on how long you have stayed away from her, give her another chance and see what happens - all the best, and by the way not all ladies ask for material things from their boyfriends so you are mistaken to take that as a negative thing, in fact i support her way of doing things
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2008-09-03 | bird said:
Ehe he..he!
it is called love..It comes in different sizes and and shape. Why do you want a woman to ask you for things in the first place. I believe when you are dating a woman you as man should be responsible for her upkeep ( if you are in a position ) ie sweety please take this and make your hair, give her pocket money to buy things like mafuta, pads etc, You are the man here unless if you have another man you have deligated your duties to. Second, if you love someone please telll her....kwani iko nini? This lady love u! she is just naive....period